What a Woman Wants

Remember when you fell in love? Your thoughts were consumed, your heart ablaze, and your calendar reserved for your one and only. There was no question of how much of him you wanted. Years later, after the embers have cooled and love has matured, other desires and commitments compete for your attention and loyalty. Daily, a decision to invest in that relationship must be made. I am convinced of the same when it comes to God. How much God do we really want?

Before me stands my husband, a few pounds heavier, a sprinkling of grey and added laugh lines, but still the love of my life. We have the marriage that we want to have and purpose to have. It is free for the taking.

Some days, we choose intimacy and some days we don’t. There are days we choose to invest in our marriage and days we act like selfish brats. If we have a rotten relationship, we only have ourselves to blame, because there are some things in life that we have simply because we want them enough.

Being Used Instead of Being Wanted

Have you ever felt used by someone? A friend who did not really want you, only what you could do for her? I recently whined to my husband about my teenage children who make me feel exactly that- used.  As they struggle to escape the orbit around Planet Me, I take on the role of maid and cook. They want all the benefits of being my child without any of the responsibilities. They want my services, but not me.  Ouch.

 I Use God and His Blessings

This week, God revealed to me that my teenagers are not the only ones orbiting Planet Me. I want his blessings, but not him. Jen Hatmaker wrote in  A Modern Girls Guide to Bible Study,  “we throw open our Bibles and scavenge an upper for the day…” I read his Word for a quick fix, not to enjoy his presence.

I am reminded of a poem I once heard. I searched the internet to find it today, and I am convicted by these words,

I would like to buy $3 worth of God, please.
Not enough to explode my soul or disturb my sleep,
but just enough to equal a cup of warm milk
or a snooze in the sunshine.
I don’t want enough of God to make me love a black man
or pick beets with a migrant.
I want ecstasy, not transformation.
I want warmth of the womb, not a new birth.
I want a pound of the Eternal in a paper sack.
I would like to buy $3 worth of God, please.

— Wilbur Rees

If we want him we must seek him

I know that when my husband and I want a good relationship, we purpose time with each other. If we want to be close, we plan dates and find time to talk. The world might be distracting and demanding, but we can have as much of each other as we choose. Isn’t that even more true of our relationship with God?

God has made himself available

His attention is always on us, his ear constantly turned toward us, and unlike our spouse, he understands us completely. His word tells us that he is available, willing, waiting for us to draw near to Him. He offers us his wisdom. He desires to be our refuge. His Word, the Bible is his love letter to us, our guide for this crazy journey. Yet I will be the first to admit that many days I am settling for $3 worth of God.

Romans 8:11 tells us that , “ The Spirit of God, who raised Jesus from the dead, lives in you. And just as God raised Christ Jesus from the dead, he will give life to your mortal bodies by this same Spirit living within you.”  God’s power is in us who have surrendered to Christ, yet so any times I am  more in tune with this world and my selfish desires.

The abundant life that John wrote about is available to us right now. We have every spiritual blessing we need for life and godliness. [2 Peter 1:3] But how much of God do we want? That’s the question. David challenges us to “taste and see that the Lord is good.”  [Psalm 34:8]

You will seek me and find me when you seek me with all your heart.  [Jeremiah 29:13]

What Do I want More?

No matter what I say, if I want God there is nothing stopping me from Him. No rule, law, person, or circumstance can keep me from his presence without my permission. So, if I am not experiencing the love and power of God, I have to stop and ask, “is there something I am seeking more?”

It takes time

A good relationship with God takes time. There is not shortcut or quick fix. He is a person desiring connection. This world competes for our hearts. It seeks to distract us, consume us, and confuse us. Just as the enemy tempted Eve and convinced her that what he had was better, our enemy seeks to pull us away from our Savior.

it takes focus

I often find myself consumed with worry. My thoughts can easily drift to things of this world. Some days, I stare at my phone losing minute after minute on social media. The things of this world can become my focus. God tells me that he can be found when I seek him with all my heart.

Search me, God, and know my heart;    test me and know my anxious thoughts.  See if there is any offensive way in me,
 and lead me in the way everlasting.  [Psalm 139:23-24]

It is amazing to know that the Creator of our universe has made himself known to us. He has invited us to enjoy the fullness of His presence. Today and every day. We may have as much of Him as we want.

How to Seek More of God

  • Set aside time to be alone with Jesus.
  • Learn how to study his Word for yourself.
  • Meet regularly with a friend who points you to God.
  • Be open to saying no to anything that you desire more than Him.

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